4 MEN, BY MEN

Men Talking. Men Learning.
Men Showing Up.

A MEN 4 CHOICE BLOG - HOSTED ON TAKE BACK TRUST…
Made to get men off the bench, and into the movement.

This blog is a space for men to share their perspectives on
reproductive rights, gender equity, and social change.
Written in the style of opinion editorials, these pieces reflect the individual voices and experiences of the authors, not official positions of Take Back Trust.
Just like an op-ed page in a newspaper, the purpose of 4 Men, By Men
is to spark conversation, invite reflection, and highlight the diverse ways
men can show up as allies in the fight for reproductive freedom.

“Not because they are easy, but because they are hard”
Nikki Vinckier Nikki Vinckier

“Not because they are easy, but because they are hard”

Vihan Yalamanchili, Men4Choice Fellowship alum, draws on JFK’s moonshot speech to argue that progress requires boldness and perseverance. In the face of democratic backsliding, economic inequality, and attacks on reproductive rights, he calls for recommitting to big, hopeful visions that demand hard work but move the nation toward justice and opportunity.

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Finding Method in the Madness
Nikki Vinckier Nikki Vinckier

Finding Method in the Madness

Ethan Temple, Men4Choice Fellowship alum, examines Trump’s renewed appeal through simple, fear-driven messaging and calls on progressives to counter with clarity, trust, and a vision of good government that unites rather than divides.

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Fleeing to Freedom, Now Fleeing From It: A retrospective of the America I once loved.
Nikki Vinckier Nikki Vinckier

Fleeing to Freedom, Now Fleeing From It: A retrospective of the America I once loved.

In this powerful reflection, Men4Choice Fellowship Coordinator Max Seltzer traces his family’s escape from pogroms in Europe to their fight for freedom in America—only to confront a country now retreating from its founding ideals. Seltzer draws a direct line between reproductive rights and the broader struggle for liberty, warning that abortion bans are just the beginning of a larger erosion of freedoms. With urgency and conviction, he calls on men to step off the sidelines and defend the American Experiment by standing up for bodily autonomy and the fundamental right to be free.

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“Proud Surpluses” - Strength Through Allyship 
Nikki Vinckier Nikki Vinckier

“Proud Surpluses” - Strength Through Allyship 

In this reflective piece, Men4Choice Fellowship alum Temi Ogunjulugbe draws inspiration from Superman—not for his superhuman feats, but for his emotional presence and compassion. Ogunjulugbe calls on men to embrace their strength as allies in the fight for reproductive rights and broader human dignity. By mobilizing other men, using privilege to uplift rather than oppress, and showing up with conviction, men can become “proud surpluses” to progress rather than passive bystanders to regression.

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The Fight for Reproductive Freedom: Allyship from Men and Including Men in the Fight
Nikki Vinckier Nikki Vinckier

The Fight for Reproductive Freedom: Allyship from Men and Including Men in the Fight

Too many men think supporting abortion access means staying silent. But in The Fight for Reproductive Freedom: Allyship from Men and Including Men in the Fight, Men4Choice fellow Sam Torrence argues that silence isn’t allyship—it’s absence. As anti-choice sentiment grows and male support declines, Torrence makes the case for why men must step off the sidelines—not to lead, but to follow, support, and organize.

This is a call to action for a new kind of male ally: one who understands that reproductive freedom isn’t a "women’s issue"—it’s a human rights issue.

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Lessons from MLK’s Mentor: Howard Thurman & The Battle for the Minds of Young Men
Nikki Vinckier Nikki Vinckier

Lessons from MLK’s Mentor: Howard Thurman & The Battle for the Minds of Young Men

In the wake of the 2024 election, Dewayne Martin watched a dangerous narrative unfold—one that didn't begin at the ballot box, but in the algorithm. In his powerful essay, Lessons from MLK’s Mentor: Howard Thurman & The Battle for the Minds of Young Men, Martin, Director of Alumni Engagement at Men4Choice, explores how progressive movements are losing young men—not to malice, but to loneliness, disconnection, and a lack of meaningful belonging.

Drawing from Howard Thurman's influence on Dr. King and applying it to the cultural moment we find ourselves in now, Martin asks: What are we building—and who are we building it for? This is a searing call for movements rooted not just in justice, but in radical love and genuine community—before someone else offers these young men something far more dangerous.

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