What is trauma-informed care, and how do I ask for it now or in the future?
Trauma-informed care means being treated in a way that acknowledges what you’ve been through — without judgment, pressure, or unnecessary harm. It’s healthcare that centers your safety, your choices, and your emotional wellbeing just as much as your physical care.
For people who’ve experienced trauma — whether it’s sexual assault, medical mistreatment, or anything else — trauma-informed care can make all the difference.
What does trauma-informed care look like?
A trauma-informed provider will:
Ask for your consent before touching you or starting any exam
Explain what they’re doing and why, before they do it
Let you set the pace — and take breaks if needed
Use gender-affirming, inclusive language
Listen without judgment
Let you say no at any time
This should be the standard, not a special request — but unfortunately, it isn’t always practiced.
How do I ask for it?
You deserve care that feels safe and respectful — and it’s okay to ask for that upfront. Try saying:
“I’ve experienced trauma and I need this appointment to move slowly, with explanations before any exams.”
“I’d like you to talk me through what you’re doing before you begin.”
“Can we discuss options before starting anything physical?”
“I may need to pause if I feel overwhelmed.”
“I’m looking for a trauma-informed provider. Is that something you or your team offer?”
You can also bring a support person with you, or write a note to give to the provider if saying it out loud feels hard.
You are allowed to set boundaries.
You don’t owe anyone your story to be treated with care. And if a provider doesn’t respect your needs, you are allowed to stop the visit and leave. You deserve care that meets you with dignity — every time.
