Is it too late to get the HPV vaccine if I’m in my 30s, 40s or beyond - and am likely to have a new partner?
No—and in fact, it might be one of the smartest things you can do for yourself.
The HPV vaccine isn’t just for teenagers. If you’re dating again, opening up your relationship, divorced, widowed, or just anticipating new partners—you’re exactly who this vaccine can help protect.
Here’s what you need to know:
The FDA originally approved the HPV vaccine for ages 9–26.
In 2018, that approval was expanded to include adults up to age 45.
If you’re over 45, you can still get the vaccine—but it’s considered off-label use. That means it’s safe and legal to receive, but it may not be covered by insurance and could require out-of-pocket payment.
Yes, that’s annoying. But if you can swing the cost, it’s a powerful and worthwhile tool—especially if you’ve never been exposed to certain high-risk HPV strains.
Why it matters:
HPV is the most common STI in the U.S. Nearly everyone will be exposed at some point.
90% of sexually active men and 80% of sexually active women will be exposed
It causes about 37,800 cancers a year, including cervical, anal, vulvar, vaginal, penile, and throat cancers.
The HPV vaccine prevents 90% of HPV-related cancers.
But here’s the real kicker:
Even though the FDA expanded the recommendation years ago, many providers still don’t bring it up.
Unless you ask, it’s easy for clinicians—especially those trained before 2018—to skip it altogether.
That’s where self-advocacy matters.
If you're re-entering the dating world, navigating divorce, grieving a partner, or just curious about new connections—you deserve protection.
And it’s one of my favorite things to recommend to women at these life crossroads.
Not just because it prevents cancer.
But because it tells people—loudly and clearly:
Your sexuality matters.
Your health matters.
And you have every right to protect both.
If your provider doesn’t support your right to the HPV vaccine, it might be time to find one who does. You deserve a clinician who sees the whole you—not just your medical chart. Someone who understands that protecting your sexual health is part of protecting your overall health, and who respects that women in their 30s, 40s, and beyond have full, valid sex lives. This vaccine isn’t about fear—it’s about freedom. And being empowered in your sexuality means having access to the tools that keep you safe. You deserve care that honors your autonomy and your choices.
For more information on this topic check out:
CDC: Evidence to Recommendations for HPV Vaccination of Adults, Ages 27 through 45 years
