Where can I find queer-competent mental health providers to support me through reproductive or gender-affirming care?

Finding a therapist who gets it—who understands your identity, affirms your lived experience, and supports your reproductive or gender-affirming care choices—can make all the difference. Unfortunately, not every provider is trained in LGBTQ+ inclusive care. But you do have options:

Start with directories that center queer and trans mental health:
These platforms allow you to filter by identity, specialty, and affirming care experience:

• Therapy Den – lets you search for providers who specialize in queer, trans, and reproductive care

• The National Queer & Trans Therapists of Color Network (NQTTCN) – directory for QTBIPOC mental health providers

• The Trevor Project – provides crisis support and can help with LGBTQ+-friendly referrals

• Plume Health – offers virtual gender-affirming care with mental health support

Ask the right questions upfront.
When you’re reaching out to a new therapist, it’s okay to ask:

• “Do you have experience working with trans and nonbinary clients?”

• “What’s your approach to supporting clients seeking abortion or gender-affirming care?”

• “Are you familiar with trauma-informed and affirming care models?”

If their answers are dismissive, vague, or make you uncomfortable, that’s a sign to keep looking.

Explore teletherapy if local options are limited.
Virtual therapy has opened the door to a wider range of affirming providers—especially for people living in conservative or rural areas. Many queer-competent providers offer online sessions across multiple states.

Ask your community.
Sometimes the best referrals come from LGBTQ+ friends, local queer orgs, mutual aid groups, or affirming clinics. Don’t hesitate to ask:
“Do you know a therapist who really shows up for queer and trans folks?”

You deserve a mental health provider who doesn’t just tolerate who you are—but truly sees, respects, and advocates for you. Especially when it comes to reproductive and gender-affirming care, that support is essential—not optional.